Day 23: Friends / Family, Day 7 – It is what it is.

11:02 AM – Birthday card hand delivered to our neighbor in celebration of her 80^th Birthday~

8:21 PM – over dinner my mom & I recall my childhood friends.

Wisdom:

It’s easy to say “Oh, I’m this way because such & such happened to me when…” or “I’m like this because I did [you name it] as a kid…”  That’s really a useless game – 1. Of sifting through the past to see what caused what --- useless; 2. Of saying “oh, it happened to me…I am the victim…I am like this because…” ---- useless.

Whatever happened has happened. Over done. Kaput. And, in blaming something/someone, etc., we are putting ourselves at the “mercy” of the situation. We are weakened. Taking responsibility is power. This is what is. And this is what I do now. And that’s just how it is.  So much power is available to us when we are just with whatever “is.” Then we can act with clarity. We’re not reacting or looking for others to solve our problems.  Off we go…into the wild blue yonder!

Day 22: Friendliness/Belongingness, Day 6 – Family By Choice

6:12 PM – We’re saying our good nights to everyone at Teaism – Chetana’s Savta (Grandmother), Uncle Matt & Aunt Rach, Cousins Sam & Ida, Big Cousins Tracey & Lela. This is family. And, it’s Family by Choice. Usually “Family By Choice” is for folks we think of as family who happened not to be “blood relations.” But, I see that you can also choose your family to be “like family.” I choose you!